FRIENDS

    Friends are valuable people, but only if you know who your real friends are. Some friends come and go others are for a lifetime. Right now everybody seems to be happy for the deputy president even those who were secretly wishing that his case doesn't collapse. They crowd around him putting on mechanical smiles and laughs. Many people will tend to pretend to be our friends because they gain something from us, of course, friends are to add value to us but, if they can't stand our weaknesses and be there when we need them most, they become something else, not friends. 

    Am not going to expound on who friends are. I am also a friend to someone when we complain about our friends, do we stop and think first about that. Do we believe we are the best friends of our friends or do we complain just because of complaining. I have been observing and actually in most cases the things people complain about their friends are the same things that they themselves do. 
    "Right now I am down and all my friends are nowhere to be seen," is one typical statement. Let's be realistic if I have say, ten friends and they all come to me at once with their problems, will I be able to sort all of them out with their various issues. Honestly, I don't think am that supernatural. Sometimes our friends can't help us the way we want them to and it may be because they don't have the ability to but we misinterpret it and say they are only with us in good times.True friends are always willing to help, other "friends" will pretend and we must be  able to distinguish between friends and the so called friends. 
    before complaining about a friend, think.   

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